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The distress that Will Bynum later recognized as shame settled over him almost immediately.
Bynum, then in his second year of residency training as a family medicine physician, was finishing a long shift when he was called into an emergency delivery. To save the baby’s life, use a vacuum device that uses suction to aid in rapid delivery.
The child came out safe. But the mother suffered a severe vaginal tear that required surgical repair by an obstetrician. Soon after, Bynum retreated to an empty hospital room, trying to process his feelings about the unexpected complication.
“I didn’t want to see anyone. I didn’t want anyone to find me,” said Bynum, now an engineer. Associate Professor of Family Medicine At Duke University School of Medicine in North Carolina. “It was a really primal reaction.”

Shame is a common and very uncomfortable human emotion. In the years that followed, Bynum A.J Pioneering voice Among doctors and researchers argue that the intense crucible of medical training can inflate shame among future doctors.
He is now part of an emerging effort to teach what he describes as “Efficiency of shame“For medical school students and practicing physicians. Although shame cannot be eliminated, Bynum and his fellow researchers emphasize that related skills and practices can reduce shame culture and promote a healthier way of coping with it.
Without this approach, they say, tomorrow’s doctors will not be able to recognize and deal with emotions in themselves and others. Therefore, they risk transmitting it to their patients, even unintentionally, which may happen worsening their health. Shaming patients can backfire, making them defensive and leading to isolation and sometimes substance abuse, Bynum said.
Blame patients
The American political environment represents an additional obstacle to changing the culture of shame. Health and Human Services Secretary Robert F. Kennedy Jr. and other top health officials in the Trump administration did just that Blame publicly Autism, diabetes, attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder, and other chronic problems greatly influence the lifestyle choices of people with these conditions — or their parents.
For example, FDA Commissioner Marty McCurry suggested in an interview with Fox News that more diabetes could be treated through cooking classes rather than “Just throw insulin at people“.
Even before the political transition, this situation was reflected in doctors’ offices as well. A 2023 study found that A third of doctors reported feeling alienated When treating patients with type 2 diabetes, which is sometimes associated with obesity. About 44% felt that these patients lack motivation to make changes in their lifestyle, while 39% said that they tend to be lazy.
“We don’t like feeling shy. We want to avoid it. It’s very uncomfortable,” he said. Michael Gibba nurse at the University of Wisconsin-Madison, who has Conducted a review Of the relevant studies, published in 2024. If the source of shame is from the doctor, the patient may wonder: “Why do I come back?” In some cases, the patient may generalize this to the entire health care system.”
In fact, some patients, like Christa Reed, avoid doctors because of this. Reid quit regular medical care for two decades, tired of lectures about weight. “I was told when I was pregnant that my morning sickness was because I was an overweight, overweight woman,” she said.
Except for some urgent medical issues, such as an infected wound, Reid avoided health care providers. “Because going to the doctor for an annual visit would be pointless,” said the 45-year-old Minneapolis-area wedding photographer. “They’ll just tell me to lose weight.”
Last year, severe jaw pain prompted Reid to seek specialist care. A routine blood pressure check showed very high blood pressure, sending her to the emergency room. “They said, ‘We don’t know how she gets around normally,’” she recounted.
Since then, Reed has found supportive doctors with expertise in nutrition. Her blood pressure remains under control with medication. She’s also about 100 pounds lighter than her heaviest weight, and is hiking, biking and lifting weights to build muscle.
“Masochistic” work ethic.
Savannah Woodwarda California psychiatrist, is among a group of doctors trying to draw attention to the harmful effects of shyness and develop strategies to prevent and mitigate it. Although this effort is still in its early stages, I co-led a session on shame spirals at the American Psychiatric Association’s annual meeting in May.
If doctors do not acknowledge shame in themselves, they may risk depression, ExhaustionSleep difficulties, and other ripple effects that erode patient care, she said.
“We don’t often talk about how important human connection is in medicine,” Woodward said. “But if your doctor is burned out or feels like he doesn’t deserve to be your doctor, patients feel it. They can tell.”
In a survey conducted this year, 37% of graduating students She reported feeling publicly embarrassed At some point in medical school, nearly 20% described public humiliation, according to an annual survey by the Association of American Medical Colleges.
Medical students and residents are already perfectionists, with an almost “masochistic” work ethic, as Woodward described it. They then undergo a series of tests and years of training, with constant scrutiny and patients’ lives at stake.
During training, doctors work in teams and give presentations to faculty about a patient’s medical problems and recommended treatment approach. “You stumble over your words. You miss things. Things go out of order. They go blank,” Bynum said. Then shame creeps in, he said, leading to other debilitating thoughts, such as, “I’m not good at this. I’m an idiot. Everyone around me would have done this so much better.”
However, shame remains a “chink in your armor that you don’t want to show.” Carly Babbitta family medicine physician at the University of Utah who taught medical students about the potential for shame as part of a broader course in ethics and humanities.
“You take care of human life,” she said. “God forbid you act like you’re incapable or show fear.”
Stop the shame cycle
When teaching students about shyness, the goal is to help future doctors recognize the feelings in themselves and others, so they don’t perpetuate the cycle, Pippet said. “If you feel shy throughout your medical education, that is a normal experience,” she said.
Above all, physician trainees can work to reframe their mindset when they get a bad grade or struggle to master a new skill, said Woodward, the California psychiatrist. Instead of thinking they failed as doctors, they can focus on the mistakes they made and ways to improve.
Last year, Bynum began teaching Duke University doctors about shame competence, starting with nearly 20 residents in the Department of Obstetrics and Gynecology. This year he launched a larger initiative with Shame Laba research and training partnership between Duke University and the University of Exeter in England that he co-founded, to reach about 300 people across Duke’s Department of Family Medicine and Community Health, including faculty and residents.
This type of training is rare among Duke University OB-GYN residents Canis DancelPeers in other programs. Dancel, who completed the training, now seeks to support students as they learn skills such as how to sew. She hopes they will pay this approach forward in a “chain reaction of kindness to each other.”
More than a decade after Bynum experienced that stressful emergency birth, he still regrets that shyness prevented him from checking on his mother as he normally would after giving birth. “I was so afraid of how she would react to me,” he said.
“It was a bit devastating,” he said, when a colleague later told him that his mother wished he had gone through it. “She sent me a letter thanking me for saving her child’s life. If I had given myself a chance to hear that, it would have really helped my recovery, and I would forgive her.”
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