Our 11 -year -old daughter in “friendship” with a classmate, who we realized that she is unhealthy and dominant. It was very shy, particularly conscious during the early years of The school and struggled to make it friendS, so we were happy at the beginning She found a close friend. However, weBe aware There is a fixed pattern to control this girl: demanding when Where do they meet, Or what our daughter can wear. If our daughter contradicts herShe risk ignoring her, ignoring her or speaking strongly.
This girl does not allow our daughter to interact with others without her. There is barrage claim Messages and calls at home About arrangements, we see our daughter awake and tense, and she had to respond immediately. Sometimes there is no amazing, for example saying our daughter’s child’s clothes. around Dominant behavior, they are It appears to be naturally interacting, Enjoy, Play Chat – it’s Jekyl and Hyde style This makes it difficult to know that How do we support our daughter.
We know This girl problems With anxietyno Talk with Her parents, But you feel that we will have to do so. Our daughter has It becomes more open About what is going on, we are trying to support it to be more assertive and realize that this Behavior control Not well. It seems that she understands and feels so to some extent, but so far unable To say anything. Sometimes you get angry if we talk about it. We see her feel unable and want her to move from this situation. the Girls are about to start high school They are in the same chapter.
What a lot for your daughter to deal with her. This is a terrible situation. A word with her new teacher is definitely in good condition. It is a shame that they are in the same chapter, because this is an ideal opportunity for your daughter to separate from this friend and start again.
Ross Kormak, who was recorded by the child and the teenager, Ross Kormak, was “annoyed by the feelings of the deficit that you see in your daughter, and it seems that these feelings have been repeated in your responses. You have grown in awareness in terms of the negative behavior that you put on the daughters, however, they are still not yearning
I have identified that this girl has anxiety problems (fear makes people want to control situations), but not your job, nor your daughter, to fix that.
It is great to speak your daughter, but “more” work “is needed to support and protect your daughter.” “This type of behavior requires clear limits and expectations. It will be difficult for an adult to manage, so your daughter needs help.”
The important thing is that your daughter does not become more anxious. He also said: “Talking to her that she is firm to determine the solution solution only in it, when she does not have the ability or confidence to be firm. I would instead encourage that she thinks about helping her in setting clearer limits. For example, where is the” line “with phone calls and texts on what is acceptable?”
I will do this: I inform the teacher; Try to build an appreciation of my child’s self; Tell her that “no” is a complete sentence, and let her train her in the environments that she feels safer.
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Encourage her to invite other friends a tour and join the clubs that her friend does not belong to. Let her know that she can always come to you to speak (and be calm when you do it), and make sure that when you return home, her mobile phone goes on a shelf so that she can separate from school. (You may need to design this.) Sometimes our children need to be the spine.
I am not sure to go to other parents. In my experience, parents tend to think that their child is not wrong. Ultimately, your child will learn that no one can control or should control her behavior (not even you) and that control is not related to love or friendship, but for strength. Anyone who needs to have salad on another person is actually vulnerable. These are great things for anyone to learn, not to mention a 11 -year -old child, and they may take time. Keep me on.
You may find these two useful podcasts: How to motivate your child; and The art of listening.
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