“I feel that I do all the heavy lifting in this friendship.”
Dear Eve 6,
I was the best friends with K. for 17 years. We are friends of long distances-they are in Georgia, I’m in Long Island. It was here to visit several times, but our friendship is mostly via email, text and phone. We used to speak every day, but as our lives increased, the years were, it was several times a week, then once a week.
Our friendship is deep. She knows things about me that no one knows. More than a decade ago, we shared the details of our lives and the lives of our children. We have passed Disintegrate together. We have talked to each other from our edges.
We have gone through times in which we were driving, but we always returned to each other, both of them apologize for not giving priority to our friendship better. Well, K. passed a bad disintegration (they were involved and lived together), and have some health problems. I know she loves space when she is very tense, so I give it.
The last time we talked about, she told me that she was spending a difficult time and was sorry that she was not very good. I told her that I would always be there for her when she was emotionally ready to speak. I did not say anything about my last health or my fragile emotional state because I did not want to burden it with my problems when it was clearly.
Two weeks passed and I did not hear of it, so I sent a brief text asking whether everything was fine. She said she was fine and asked me to send her update about my health problems and my children. This is how I did. It was two and a half weeks ago. I have not heard anything from it since then.
This is not the first time that I feel that I do all the heavy lifting in this friendship. I was upset with this before. But this is the first time that she feels actively ignoring me, and I really think our relationship has become a burden on it, just something else in the list of very full tasks to check this when you can.
I don’t want to be it. I prefer to end friendship for good instead of throwing it every two weeks before it. But how do I get close to it? Do I tell her what I feel and add to the feelings of guilt about us, or do I leave the friendship a stagnation?
I feel very aging on all of this. I thought as soon as you got the most easy friendships. Do not guess. We appreciate any advice that you can give me.
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